The Space Between
Alli Mifflin-Groce, Multimedia Team Member, Communications Team Member
I am reminded often how blessed I am to share the light and life of this Unity community but never more so than in recent months. Throughout the sudden illness and transition of my Dad at the beginning of this year, I have felt nothing but light, love, and power from my spiritual home at Unity of SA. With that in mind, I have found myself in deep conversation with the universe about the “spaces between”, the transitions, bumps in the road, the stretching of my awareness that move me ever forward willing or not. Consider medicine for a moment; with all our scientific advances throughout the millennia of human civilization, whenever someone is wounded the wound scabs over and that scab itches as the skin beneath it begins to heal. It’s uncomfortable and annoying, but it’s unavoidable. It’s simply the way of nature and, frankly, so much better than the alternative.
It’s this space between that fascinates me: the space between searching and finding; between striving and satisfied; between wounded and healed; between grief and gratitude; between simple and life changing. These are places of discomfort and stress and quite often physical or emotional pain, but there is more power in this in between then we can ever imagine. In this space and time when everything seems broken or lost or out of control, anything is possible because nothing is set in stone. Our mission as spiritual beings having a physical experience is to grow and learn as much as we can. So, we strive for the peace to step into this unknown with a grateful heart and an open mind, taking on all the itchy, painful, pushy discomfort as just part of the journey.
What if there was another way? What if we walked into that unknown knowing full well what was coming and paused a moment to: appreciate the infinite possibilities in the spaces between; acknowledge the wonder of the universe that allows all things to be present at all times if we only allow our hearts and minds to see; appreciate the itch that tells us something is changing; honor and release the pain that tells us something is wrong; and greet the discomfort that motivates us through to a new plane of knowledge and experience?
The White Stone Ceremony at Unity of SA is arguably one of the most powerful of our traditions, and it holds a special place in my heart as it was the first service I ever attended. This year was no exception. My new name was clear and absolute. It spoke to me of worthiness and self-care and I made a commitment to listen and act accordingly. Then life happened and I was fairly drowning in confusing medical terms, names and specialties of doctors, nurses’ changing shifts, and family and friends to care for and keep “in the loop”. I remained committed, allowing myself to breathe into the worry and confusion and know that nothing could ever change the love of my family and the place that my Dad will always hold within our hearts. Awareness came over me, as we sat and waited in uncomfortable chairs, in a cold hospital, with empty stomachs and little to no sleep, that Divine was present in all of it. Spirit was there every moment, allowing us to shift our positions and hearts to a new reality in which Love transcends all life in this world and we will never be parted from the One though our forms may change.
As I write this, I pause to sniffle and dry some tears and say thank you for the love that grows and changes every day as I rise to meet each new challenge. I acknowledge the Oneness that keeps my Dad close and bless the Power that holds us all together. As it always does, my new name found me at the perfect time and has given me permission to feel what I need to feel, say what I need to say, and do what I need to do. I am learning to embrace my “betweenness” and I’ve bought that Personal Training package, scheduled my workouts, planned healthier meals, paid off some bills, saved some money, cleared out some junk, and, most especially, given myself permission to be where I am and love where I am. Because the space between is real and alive with potential, moving me always onward and upward to a greater awareness of the One, the Divine within me. I challenge us all to bless the discomfort in the space between and love the growth and healing that is always just below the surface, raising us to a higher consciousness.